I am a thirty-eight year old, married, mother of two. I’m five foot three inches tall with size 32A breasts.
While a 32A is technically not completely flat, my breasts are small enough that I’ve never felt like a real woman before. I’ve always felt like a little girl, prepubescent. Society tells us that women have breasts. Am I not a woman then if I don’t have any?
I will say though, that I have a very healthy self-esteem. I’m not perfect, but I’m very happy with my appearance. I’m not tall, but I am very slender. I’ve got small, size six feet that always fit the cute (and usually discounted) display shoes at the department stores. I have a long neck with defined shoulders and upper back which I love
highlighting by wearing my hair in a French twist. And I have a great ass. But my breasts…
All my life people have been commenting on my small, childlike breasts. Why is it a faux-pas to talk about how large a person is, but nothing is off-limits when having public conversations about the smallness of one’s size?
Over the years I’ve had many embarrassing memories about my small breasts.
I remember being high school age when the topic turned to breasts. An acquaintance (and I use that term loosely) felt compelled to announce to the whole group that my boyfriend’s breasts were bigger than mine and of course the group erupted in thunderous laughter. This conversation happened over 20 years ago and to this day my heart still sinks when I think about it. After all, your man is not supposed to have bigger breasts than you. Not wanting to experience that feeling again, I started my search for padded bras.
A few years later came one of my favorite inventions…the Frederick’s of Hollywood, infamous Water Bra. Padded bras never worked for me. There was no jiggle, no softness when you hugged someone. The cups always had a fake shape to them. The Water Bra solved this. Until that is, you decide to get intimate with someone for the first time. The most embarrassing was the first time with my now husband. I had a horrible crush on him for SEVEN years before we finally started dating, so that’s A LOT of build-up. However, and to this day he makes fun of this…the lights were out, we were getting romantic, and he undid my bra, only to hear a loud “thud, thud” as my Water Bra hit the floor. How’s that for romantic? He still calls that my “false advertisement” bra.
After I got married and had my kids, I was not nearly as concerned about my breast size. Were they still small after kids? Yup. And as if possible, a little saggy. But around my early 30s, I stopped caring so much about what other people thought about my breasts and I ditched my Water Bras and my Victoria’s Secret Bombshell Bras. I went to simple shaped cups or on the very rare occasion I could find them, lace cups. Shopping for bras though still had me feeling like a little girl. Especially when the best selection of bras in my size were in Target’s girl department. Have you ever been in the girl’s department of a store and seen the look on another woman’s face when you are looking at clothes and hold them up to yourself to gauge size? I’ve got to say, you don’t feel so hot, sexy or sultry shopping for bras when you get that awkward and sometimes dirty look when the other patrons realize you are indeed shopping for yourself all the while they are shopping for their young daughters.
It wasn’t until a few years ago that I started seriously considering breast augmentation. I wasn’t a “clubbing” 20-something year old wanting attention. I had already had my kids. I have a healthy marriage. I didn’t want “giant jugs” or “melons”. I wanted to be able to buy beautiful and sexy lingerie, and have it fit. I wanted suit
jackets and fitted bodices to not look like the sails of a ship in dead wind. I wanted to feel like a woman.
A few times I almost did it. It’s weird though. It seems that when I don’t have the funds for the procedure, that’s when I’m ready to have it done. But when I do have the funds, I worry about being judged about my decision.
I have friends who have had it done. And I think some of them look good. Others are too big for my personal aesthetic. One I had absolutely no idea that she had them done until she confided in me. That’s how great they looked!
Most of all, though, I worried about what my mom would think. Growing up (as she has breasts just as small as mine), she would tell jokes about herself, such as “I’m a carpenter’s dream! I’m flat as a board!” or “I’m a pirate’s dream! I’m a sunken chest!”. It’s odd that at the same time she was expressing pride at her small girls, she was
inadvertently putting them down. That mentality was passed on to me as well, as I’ve been known to say on occasion that I need a t-shirt that says “In Case of Rape, This Side Up.”
I have always wondered what my mom thinks about breast augmentation. Growing up, she never mentioned it. She did however mention how excited she was when during menopause, the “boob fairy” visited and increased her breasts by a full cup size. I’m fortunate enough that my mother is still with me, so I think I might actually
tackle this scary idea and get up the courage to talk to my mom about breast implants.
One thing for sure that I can tell you is that I am 100% ready to take the plunge to finally be able to wear a plunging neckline. I’m saving up for the procedure and hope you will follow along in my journey as I learn everything I need to know about getting the breasts that I have always dreamed of.
The United States Senate voted 79-20 as part of their 2014 budget to repeal part of the Affordable Care Act (Obamacare) that would have imposed a tax on medical-device sales, including breast and other implants. Repeal of the proposed medical device tax was bipartisan. Many Senators realize this provision would cost jobs at medical device producers. Additionally, the tax would increase cost of care and decrease availability of care, effects contrary to the intended purpose of the Affordable Care Act.
Revenue from the medical-device tax would have paid for part of the signature achievement of President Obama’s first term. Repeal of the tax does not become law because as part of a tax and spend 2014 budget bill passed by the Democrat controlled Senate, it stands no chance of passing the Republican controlled House of Representatives. Still, the symbolic vote is a victory for patients, physicians, and medical-device makers because it signifies overwhelming opposition to adverse impact of the medical-device tax. Sen. Amy Klobuchar (D., Minn.) said she opposed the tax, despite its connection to the health-care law. “It still isn’t right because it creates too much of a burden,” Sen. Klobuchar said, asserting the health-care overhaul won’t generate enough new customers to offset the costs for medical-device companies.
For both cosmetic implants and for breast reconstruction after mastectomy, the device tax would have increased costs, which are already among the highest worldwide due to the stifling regulatory and taxation environment in which American surgeons operate, and in which American patients are cared for. Facial and other body implants would also have been subject to additional taxation. Each and every regulatory board, agency, and committee that mandates accredited providers’ participation charges for that privilege. For the federal government to obligate cosmetic patients to pay for others’ medical care amounts to extortion, and to further abridgement of American liberty. The tax is contrary to constitutional principles, and for that reason alone, the measure should have been justly repealed.
Steve Laverson, MD
Cosmetic surgery requires evaluation of human features, consideration of their shape and attractiveness, and incorporation of structural changes for the benefit of the bearer. The appearance of each part, however, is very much dependent not only on its anatomy, but its relationship with surrounding features. For example, a large nose diminishes the size of eyes and lips. Reducing nasal width, length, and projection creates an apparent enlargement of the eyes and lips, without touching the eyes or lips. A narrow waist enlarges the breasts, trimming a full neck increases projection of the chin, and liposuction of the flanks enlarges the buttocks. Relativity, that is, the significance of objects depends on their relationship with other objects around them, is obvious everywhere in our universe.
This “Aesthetic Theory of Relativity” must be appreciated when planning treatment. Before embarking on any cosmetic surgery, the effect on surrounding parts must be considered. For example, cheek implants, while they can add angularity or fullness to cheekbones, often create the undesirable appearance of a lower eyelid hollow where there was none before. By pushing the cheeks out, the adjacent eyelids appear more sunken.
In seeking consultation from your plastic surgeon, it’s reasonable to ask about these secondary and perhaps unintended consequences of many procedures.